Shhhhh....they see me

   Yeah...I know. Weird title. Lol. But you'll see why...

   I wanted to write this blog for all the "sensitive" people out there. The misfits and kooks of society who hear, and sometimes see, dead people. Yeah...you know who you are. It's okay, honey. This is a safe place to discuss things such as this. *kisses*

   I remember the first time I saw a spirit in full form. I talked about it in my books but, for those who haven't read them yet (btw...why haven't you?) I thought I'd chat about it here.

   My first time was in this old townehome I had. I had gotten up from meditating on an upcoming case and went to use the restroom. Yes...I saw my first one, with my own eyes, when I was taking a tinkle. It was a little dog that ran down my stairs and sat in the doorway of my restroom. He just stared at me, panting, and went poof! Then he was gone. Yes...you're right. Good thing I was sitting down.

   The second time was at work. A woman walked through the wall of the dental office I was working at and stood at the feet of my patient. I finally had to acknowledge her when she started making things fly off the shelf above the doctor and I. Yep...that was fun.

   I could go on and on but, what I really wanna do is talk about how difficult it is to have that happen. For those of you who've dealt with this you know exactly what I mean.

  Take yourself back, for a moment, to the movie "Ghost". You remember, right? Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore? The whole "pottery/clay" love scene? Yeah...that's the one. Now...remember when Whoopi Goldberg was giving that fake psychic reading and all of the sudden she could actually hear Patrick Swayze? Then all the other spirits popped in? Yeah...that's not bullshit. That really happens.

   I know she could only hear them, which is bad enough, but some can actually SEE them, too. Cool? Yes. Frustrating? Hellz yeah! Now, I'm not saying I wanna stop being able to do this. I'm not saying any of us wanna stop. What I AM saying is that it would be nice to take a shower without interruptions. Or sleep. Have sex. Eat. Work. Not that it happens all the time but there is never a warning as to when it WILL happen. At least not for me.

   How many of you find this to be true in your experience? I liken it to avoiding your annoying neighbor or an ex you may see walking the isle at the local grocery store. Problem is...you can't hide from something that can walk through walls. No matter how hard you try. Lol.

   Anywhoo...just curious how everyone else feels about that and thought I'd throw it out there. Love y'all!!!

   Blessed Be )O(

A bloggy kinda night...

   I had planned to have my next book, "Dreams", out by March but, on a hunch, I have decided to postpone it till after my trip abroad. That having been said, I would still like to open up the conversation concerning dreams and their meanings. Give y'all a lil morsel to gnaw on while you wait...patiently, I hope! ❤

   I wonder how many of us have dreams that are really memories of a life once lived? How many times have you woken up and, glanced at your surroundings, and wondered why they were so different? Has it happened once? Twice? More times than a bakers dozen?

   Something tells me it's more of a common occurrence than people think. I have recently, and by that I mean the last year, come into contact with people that I know on a "soul" level. I've had dreams, visions if you will, of a past connection that can't be denied. Some have been comforting...others downright frightening. Lucky for me I felt comfortable enough to discuss these with them and have been able to piece things together more clearly.

   How many of you have come across the same phenomenon? The strong connection to others that seems so unlikely, yet feels unbelievably comforting? Have you seen evidence of the bond in your dreams? Are you keeping a record? From those whom I have spoken to this seems to be escalating over the past year or so...this connecting. It makes one wonder what is coming. What we are being prepared for.

   Twould be nice if only the good people came back to connect with you but, sadly, that is not the case. Maybe it's just life recycling? But I don't think so. It feels as if we are all standing on quicksand with solid ground just within our reach. There are those who will reach out, grab your hand, and see that you make it to safety. Then there are those who will step on your head, try and push you under, only to sink themselves before they reach the promised land.

   I strongly encourage you all to look at your circle. Analyze your dreams about those in your circle. Listen to your gut concerning another that dares to enter your tribe. To put it plainly, we are all born with our very own, built in, alert system. Our dreams tell us important information. They do this through our subconscious when it is least guarded. Our gut does the same only rarely do we listen.

   Big changes are coming for all of us. What appears to be minimal on the surface can be a strong and turbulent force underneath. For good or bad, the knowing couldn't be of more importance than it is right now.

   Blessed Be )O(

 

A Dream Realized...

   I'm sitting here thinking about my upcoming trip to England and I'm getting nervous. Not the bad kind of nervous, lol. The very good kind. The amazing kind. The steal your heart kind.

   Those close to me know how important this trip is to me. They know of the dreams and visions I've had that span centuries. In my lives I've experienced death, birth, joy, madness and an exhilarating freedom...most, of which, have been on European soil.

   I'm making my list of places I absolutely have to go. There are many, to be sure, but one in particular has me very intrigued. All I will say, for now, is that it's not far outside of London. It's past is shrouded in darkness and ritual. It's light glows red with the memories of those who have dared to step inside.

   I know this place well, even though I have yet to enter the doorway in this life. I can tell you what it smells like, the texture of the walls as my hand slides over them. I can tell you where the fear was barely contained under the guise of maniacal laughter.

   Yes...I know it well. I'm practically humming with excitement to see, with my own eyes, what my soul has shown me to be true. It's calling to me even now...

   It won't be long. I will once again collide the past with the present. Only time will tell if it leads to the future...

   Blessed Be )O(

The Secret...

   I was talking to my buddy, Gwen, tonight about the social media world we live in. How it all seems to be speculative and suspect, at times.

   I will admit, when I first branched out into twitterland, I was somewhat dumbstruck on how to do things. I was afraid, and it turns out rightfully so, of stalkers and weirdos. Creepy people, both male and female, and of people feeling they could get too "familiar" with me due to the, seemingly, no boundary law of the internet. Then it hit me...

   If I was going to go into things with that mindset then why bother? Isn't the whole reason behind social media interaction? Communication with people you may, otherwise, never meet? Networking?

   Now...I'll admit that sometimes this does not work out in my favor. Yes....I've been the recipient of unsolicited photos. Yes...I have had my share of "proposals", and I don't mean marriage. Lol. True...I have had a few stalkers in the past...and some that continue into the present. But you know what?

   That's okay.

   All of that doesn't diminish all the good friends that I have met through social media. Not followers...FRIENDS. People who check on me, daily, to see how I am. They ask after my family. They are curious as to how my day went. Plain and simple...they care. You know why?

   Because I care, too. I talk to them. I ask after them and their families, as well. We exchange thoughts, ideas, musings...if you will. We laugh and cry together. We poke fun at each other, and ourselves. I never expected that I would get on twitter and everybody would rush to my side. I knew I would have to work at it. I think that's where people get confused. They want to post pics and promote themselves, but don't want to engage with the people they are asking this of.

   Can't do that, folks. You want people to like you and have your back? Prove you're worthy. No one is gonna come knockin on you invisible "social media door" and say, "hey....let me brag about ya to everyone I know...you just sit right there and chill...I got this."

   Remember...we're all on here to network and interact with like-minded individuals. We all gotta do our part. Just food for thought...

Blessed Be )O(

Going home...

   I've wondered for many years what it would be like if I could visit the places that have resonated in my soul since childhood. How would it feel to step, barefoot, on soil I have walked upon in another life? Would I recognize anyone? Would it make my heart beat faster? Would I cry?

   Sounds silly to some but I truly think of these things. Luckily, for me I get to find out very soon. I leave on the trip of a lifetime in a couple months. New Orleans, England, Ireland and Scotland. I get to see Nine Ladies Stone Circle for myself. I will finally be able to lay hands on the stones of my ancestors and join my energy with theirs.

   I will see the city I love, my Mecca, New Orleans. Where anything can happen, and usually does. Where spirits see me as a taxi and "catch a ride" if need be. No worries...I don't mind.

   I will step foot on Irish soil. Something no one in my family has done since they immigrated to the United States so very many years ago.

   I will walk the alleyways of Mary Kings Close, in Scotland, and bring peace to any who wish to communicate with me from whatever realm they reside in.

   I will meet people I have known forever, and some I've only just discovered. I will sink myself into the mist and let it's mysteries surround me. I hope to gain knowledge in all I see, feel and hear. I wish to share it all with you. I will not shield. I will not fight it.

   I have lived many lives from which I can learn and I want to learn it all. I need to learn it all. This is my final go around on this earth. My only wish is that I leave it a better place than how I found it. The only way I can do that is by going home...

Blessed Be )O(

Someday...

   We have all used the word "someday" when describing the things we want to do in life.
   "Someday I'll quit the job I hate..."
   "Someday I'll find time for myself..."
   "Someday I'll see all those places I dream about..."

   Well...the culmination of my somedays came yesterday. I received my passport in the mail. I even did a little dance at the mailbox. Lol. To bystanders I may have looked a little crazy.

   I didn't care. Not even a little.

   You see...to me that was a HUGE sign from the universe telling me "go get 'em, hun!" Sounds silly, but it's true. I've never lived my life for me. I've never taken chances. I've never "broken the rules". Not really. I've always done what was expected of me. I've stayed in situations that were slowly killing my soul because I thought I had to. It was less than a year ago when I finally said "to hell with that way of thinking". I have worked my fingers to the bone for others my whole life. I've worked till I could barely stand up straight or walk without limping. I've poured my soul onto pages with little to no support emotionally. I've done what so many women have done. They put their dreams on hold while supporting someone else's. Well...here's my advice to ANYONE who has spent their life doing that...

   STOP.

   You are worth believing in, too. Be a good mom by showing your children that dreams are worth chasing. That life is meant to be lived. Give them wings so that when it's time for them to fly they will do so without fear. If you lack spousal support then, by all means, reevaluate your situation. One of you shouldn't have to die inside so the other can live. Trust me. You may have to work twice as hard by yourself or, in my case, you may find the load lessens when you embark on this journey single.

   Yes, my house gets messy. Yes, we may have to get take out a few times a week cause I'm too damn tired to cook. Yes, I may have to juggle a bit being all the things I am, but you know what?

   It's worth it.

   My son tells me how proud he is of me. How I never let life get me down anymore. How he wants to live his life to the fullest because he sees what I'm trying to do. I can't tell you how proud that makes me. A year ago I was full of "somedays". Today I'm actually planning and doing. There's a meme out there that says "When life knocks you down calmly get back up and say 'you hit like a bitch'". People....this is true. You are only limited by yourself, the way you let others treat you and by how slowly you get up after being knocked down. Don't ever forget this is YOUR life. Do you really want to die with "somedays" still in your heart?

   Blessed Be )O(

 

What Might Have Been....

   I have been doing a lot of thinking lately. Wondering why some spirits are easy to communicate with, regardless of when they passed, and others you seem to never be able to reach. An odd thought, to be sure, but a valid one. It's a question that merits thought, consideration. So that's what I did...and I think I may have an answer.

   I wonder if those souls who reach out to us, using what ever means possible, are simply people who never reincarnated. It makes sense, right? Much more sense than some go to heaven and the others go to hell. At least I think so. I'm not saying this answer is absolute but I think it's just as sound as the religious view I just listed.

   Let's assume you have a say in whether or not you reincarnate, and when. If that's the case then this would explain why some people tend to stick around places they love while others don't. They would know if they chose to inhabit another body they may never see their home again. That's pretty powerful motivation, if you ask me.

   Assuming there is a time limit on how a soul can choose to come back, this may also explain why some get stuck. If they miss the window, and don't know when it will open again, they think they are shit outta luck and may become frustrated.....or angry.

   Bear in mind I'm only hypothesizing but I really do wonder if I'm onto something. Let's also assume that when you pass a full record of all previous lives experienced is made available to you. If they could be considered less then joyous you may decide remaining in spirit form is preferable, right? What better way to have some fun than to have a bunch of us "ghost lovers" chasing after you. Lol.

   Hell, I can't lie. You know I'm so gonna do that to y'all! Don't be a hater. You know you wanna do it too! 😊

   Anywhoo....just food for thought. A quick Lil blog to get your "paranormal" juices flowing....

   Blessed Be )O(

Yep...It's True...

   A good point was brought up recently about the competitive nature of paranormal teams and individuals in the field. I gotta be honest with ya, folks....

   I agree.

   Those who have read my blog before shouldn't be surprised by that statement. I've weaved the complaint through previous blogs. Giving examples of why I think this is true and giving tips on how to improve it. Has anybody listened? Have they implemented changes or tried to see the very obvious fact that this is an epidemic? I'm not really sure. I hope so...but who knows.

   As we all know, I'm not one to call people out by name, nor do I wish to make anyone feel as if I'm making an "example" out of them. All I can do is tell you how I do things....and why I do them that way.

   I learned a long time ago that no single person can make the difference that needs to be made in this field. No single person has all the answers. No single person has a better "in" with the spirit world than everybody else. This includes me. I'll give you an example...

   I was contacted today to look into a missing persons case. I've done this before so I wasn't necessarily surprised by the request. Wanna know what the first thing I did was? I messaged 2 dear friends. One to let them know in case I needed advice or a swift kick in the ass if I let it get to me and the second to help me. The first I'm sure y'all understand but the second you may be wondering about. You see, to me, it's very simple. I could give two shits whether I get any or all of the credit, regardless of the outcome. The only...I repeat ONLY...thing that matters is whether or not this person is found. Who helped is irrelevant. When I relayed what information I had I included my friends reading as well. That's how it should be.

   That's why you never hear/see me bragging about accomplishments on social media. The only time I go into detail about what I can do, and have done, is when I'm asked directly. It's not about fame. It's not about glory. It's not about notoriety.

   It's about helping people. Plain and simple. It's about gaining knowledge and understanding. It's a quest for the truth regarding all things paranormal. Whether it's psychics, witchcraft, ghost or demons. It's not a competition. At least not to me. Imagine how far we would be today if we spent as much time supporting other groups, and the cause, as we did finding ways to discredit them. Sure, there are the fakers out there. The liars who make shit up in hopes of gaining a TV show. Can't help that. Always gonna be that way. But here's an idea. If we all focused less on those people, and more on helping each other, they may become few and far between. Don't let the actions of others turn yourself, and the rest of us, into cheap bickering entertainment for the masses. I know this way isn't easy, folks...but I promise it'll be worth it.

Don't forget...love y'all!

Blessed Be )O(

As Seen On TV

   I was talking with my buddy the other day and she came up with a very good idea for a blog. As both of us are fairly "hip deep" in the paranormal field we see, constantly, the misconceptions that cast a shadow over the field. Out of all of them, the one that stands out the most, is peoples expectations of what paranormal activity is.

   Taking a risk on offending some folks here but, since that's never stopped me before, I figure I'll just go for it. How many people here are aware that most of the shows out there use "recreations" when filming paranormal shows? Raise your hand if you know this.

   If your hand is raised, pass along this information. You passed the one question quiz. If it's not....we need to talk. This is the unfortunate part of television. The misleading part, unintentional or not, that can wreak havoc on many teams out there. Teams that don't have the money to afford actors, and wouldn't want to if they could. I can't stress enough that these shows, along with the ones who fake evidence, are for ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY. If, when you watch a teams YouTube channel, you are expecting all the bells and whistles of a produced "show" then you may not want to tune in. Your not going to see the computerized image of a spirit walking the hall. Your not going to see the black mass holding a person down during sleep. You're absolutely NOT going to hear crystal clear EVP's. Nor will you hear them by the dozens. What you will experience is true paranormal evidence by hardworking individuals who not only ARE NOT paid, but do this during their spare time. It's spare because they have families and jobs to attend to, as well. What they do comes from the heart and is driven by the love of the field and the quest for knowledge and understanding. Remember this when you go to support anyone who is involved in the paranormal field. Ask yourself what you want out of the experience. Do you want a cheap thrill that you will enjoy but soon forget? Or do you want actual answers by a person or team that risks everything to pursue it? Once again...just food for thought...

Blessed Be )O(

The "D" word...

   So, I'm home sick today due to food poisoning. DO NOT eat gas station cheeseburgers, people. I'm chatting with a friend, between yucky sessions, and the topic comes up about demons and the fact that so many people assume they have demon activity in their house.

   Now, I'm sure I went over this before in another blog, but I think I was talking about multiple things at that time so I didn't get to spend as much time on the subject as may have been warranted. Well...I'm getting ready to change that. Brace yourselves...

   In regards to demon activity....

      1) Yes...that type of activity CAN exist.
      2) NO...that DOES NOT mean that should be your first thought when AND if you experience paranormal activity in your home.


   Trust me, I understand the fascination. I really do. From every paranormal TV show out there we are conditioned to believe that it isn't activity if it isn't scary and dangerous. Well, that's the biggest load of bullshit I've ever heard. Why would it be more important to experience something negative as it would something positive? Anyone reading this, ask yourself right now, which would you rather be able to do... 

      1) Make contact with something otherworldly and possibly evil?
      2) Make contact with someone's loved one and bring closure to a family in need?

  If you answered number one, hands down, then please...by all means...get out of this field. Would it be cool? Yes. Interesting? Yes. Would you like the bragging rights to it? Of course. Is it the most important thing?

  HELLZ NO.

 Most of us who are in this field have a strong pull to connect with loved ones who have passed on. We are, for the most part, looking for answers and closure. People, like myself and others I know, are looking to help as many people as we can. Living or dead. It is a calling. Plain and simple. Now...I'm not saying that when someone claims to have demonic activity that it isn't true. Not at all. What I AM saying, is that it is the LEAST common type of activity you will run across yet is the most talked about and claimed.

   Think about that. Think long and hard about it. Has it ever occurred to anyone that you may be being programmed to believe that? Think of how many people out there think what we do is bullshit and that we make outrageous claims to findings. By automatically assuming that any activity, that "appears" negative, is demonic we are strengthening their claims that we are kooks.

   So stop it. Really. Claim activity if you have it. But for the love of whatever God or Gods you believe in please don't make assumptions on what it is till you have all the facts. That's why it is called Paranormal INVESTIGATING. It's not called Paranormal CONCLUSIONS. Oh...and for those groups out there who get a kick out of telling a homeowner or a business that they have demonic activity just because it makes you look like a badass "ghost hunter"...

   You STOP too. This isn't a game. It belittles us all and makes it that much easier for people to cast a negative eye our way. No one...I repeat...NO ONE should go into an investigation with a preconceived conclusion to what is causing it. Open mind is key. If it's demonic, trust me, you will know without having to guess. If it isn't, you just might be able to actually help someone, which is the real reason for doing all of this in the first place. Right? Right.

Blessed Be )O(

Twitterland

   I've been thinking about what to say in this blog all day and I think it finally came to me. You see, today has been a very annoying day to say the least. I will admit, I'm all abut the social media. In fact, I love it. I love interacting with people from all over the world. I love exchanging paranormal stories with them and bouncing ideas off them. I love hearing about other peoples experiences and seeing how they dealt with them. It is all very fascinating to me. These are the upsides to social media.

   But it isn't all flowers and sunshine, unfortunately. Wouldn't it be nice if it was? Anywhoo...I digress. Today was one of those days where I could have thrown my phone out the car window, twitter and all.

   A brief recap for those who didn't see it...

   A friend of mine posted a funny pic on twitter, not unlike we all do, and all of the sudden a couple of people got all "butt hurt" over it. Why, you ask? You see...there is the pickle. We have no idea. No one was tagged in it. No one was made to feel like it was them. Absolutely NOTHING was done wrong, yet all of the sudden, my friend and myself, are being called "jealous middle aged cows". You see...we have many mutual friends between us and the person who, apparently, thought we were speaking of his girlfriend. Why he would think a picture of a monkey wearing makeup was her is beyond me. I guess that is something he will have to sort out. I had to assume that, since this person is blocked from viewing my page, that it was his "professional" page he was using to spy on us with. Good assumption on my part, I guess. No sooner did I block that page did I start receiving notifications of brand new accounts following me or brand new accounts on twitter. Now...normally new accounts wouldn't stir up so much trouble, but these are different. It occurred to me, because it's what my phone said, that these accounts were from people in my phone contacts list. Well...you can imagine my dismay because I didn't know these people so how would they be in my phone number book, right?

   Can I get a BINGO???
   Can I get an AMEN???

   That's right, folks. If someones phone number is listed in your contacts it will notify you when they start a Facebook, Instagram and Twitter account.

   Sooooo...in order to keep my sanity and not hop on a plane to bitch slap someone, I am conceding. I will not continue to block the "strange twitter accounts" from people I don't know yet are somehow in my phone book. By all means, spy away. Absolutely assume that everything posted has something to do with you. Please be THAT self involved because the truth is just too much to take. I will NOT censor myself to spare your feelings. If I post a pic of a two headed snake, assume it means I think you are two-faced. If I post I had a bad day, assume you were the cause. If I post I tinkled glitter, assume you had control over that. BY ALL MEANS..assume everything that anyone says is about you. But...while you are doing that, know deep down that it is not true. We do not care.

   I repeat...WE DO NOT CARE. We have given up on you ever leaving us alone. We don't expect any semblance of decent human behavior from you. I fully expect to be viewed, spied on, talked about and harassed through innuendo.  I will tell everyone one I know to not relay the information to me because I simply could care less. I choose LIFE. I choose to continue on this adventure I have started with the finest people I know here and overseas. I got out of middle school a long time ago and don't wish to return and that's what this type of behavior reminds me of. I am just too old for it.

   With that having been said, enjoy what you like, bitch about what you don't, and press on. Life is simply too short for bullshit like this.

   As for me I have too much on my plate to be concerned with the blocking and the worrying. This is shaping up to be a stellar year and I can't wait to see what happens. For all my paranormal buddies out there...belt yourself up...it's going to be a helluva ride!!!

   Blessed Be )O(

2016...here I come!!

   Thought I would take a moment and fill y'all in on the year to come. It really is going to be very exciting!!! As you all know I started working with NP PARANORMAL out of Sheffield, England in March/April of 2015. I've been blessed by this experience and will finally get to meet the whole gang, in person, this March!! This trip has been a long time in the making and we have some very exciting irons in the fire that y'all will find out about later...stay tuned!!!

   Then...in June, I will be traveling to Virginia to meet up with BPI and continue the Paranormal experience with them dealing with some pretty intense investigations that we've kept under our hats! You don't wanna miss it!!

   Then.....myself, and BPI (Wish NP PARANORMAL could come!!) will be attending the Super Paracon in Erie, PA in October!!! Again...another pivotal moment for us. So much going on and so much to attend to that my head is spinning! Lol. All of this plus my third book, "DREAMS" will be coming out soon and I'm the cohost of a new radio show with Mike Ricksecker called "Edge of the Rabbit Hole" which airs every other Tuesday night.

   I want to thank you all for your love and support during this last year. It truly has meant the world to me! I can't wait to see what 2016 brings and I feel truly blessed to have y'all all along for the ride. Should be a wild one! Lol!

Blessed Be )O(